Destination Wedding Etiquette - What Happens in the Planning Stages

Once a destination wedding is chosen, guests should be notified of the event very early on in the process. Unless, the wedding is an elopement, consideration must be given to everyone's preparations. We have, therefore, listed our top five hot points when preparing for a destination wedding.

Save the Date Cards are a must. Many people believe that STDC are buzzwords or the vogue thing to do. These cards have nothing to do with being stylish or keeping up with the times. They have everything to do with common courtesy by letting people know that the wedding will not be held locally and thus, many arrangements will need to be made. And the cards themselves carry a few points of etiquette.

  • Do not send STDC to people that you are not inviting to the wedding. These cards are not engagement announcements. Be sending the cards, you are informally telling the receiver that he/she is invited to the wedding so please mark that date on the calendar. If cards are sent to the wrong people, not only are feelings hurt but also it could become very expensive for the engaged couple.

  • STDC are not substitutes for wedding invitations. You will need invitations to remind everyone and find out how many are coming.

  • STDC can be whatever you want them to be. They may be postcards, magnets, computer generated note cards, officially printed cards that match your wedding invitations, or they can be lovely hand written notes.

  • Let the receivers know that you will be sending more detailed information later.

Travel Arrangement Information is important, as guests may not be aware of how to get to the destination. If you have been to the location or you have requested the services of a tour operator, you will have more accurate information on the best airlines to use, what connections are required and what accommodations are available. While there is some dispute among wedding experts as to whether the bride and groom should pay for transportation, it is agreed that the couple should keep guests informed on air rates, booking arrangements and any discounts that may be offered. The bride and groom should make phone calls and do research on the possibilities even if their guests are paying for their own transport.

Suitable Clothing and Required Accessories are not about making a fashion statement or telling your guests how to dress. On the contrary, the guests will need specific information on the location. They will need to know details about the temperature and also rain, sun or snow at the designated time of travel. They will need to know about the terrain. If it is a rocky area, for instance, high heels will not be appropriate. If the days are hot but the nights are cold, this is important in selecting proper attire. Another important point is the type of wedding. If the bride is wearing a plain sundress and flip-flops while the groom wears Bermuda shorts and polo shirt, the guests must know this. It would not be fair for men to show up in suits and ladies in long gowns.

Be Considerate of Guests if they are paying their own way. If the guests are paying for accommodations, be sure that you do not appear as though you are forcing them to stay somewhere expensive. Gather information about suitable properties and let the guests choose where they would like to stay.

Keep Invitees Informed. Traveling for some people is very stressful. They may never have traveled by plane before or they may be apprehensive at a foreign location. To keep everyone at ease and "in the loop", send periodic newsletters so that everyone feels part of the process and so that decisions can be made.

More tips and advice for a succesful wedding abroad can be founr at Your Wedding Abroad!